“Married women are the best. They don’t want to have your babies… they just want to fuck.”
That’s what he told me on the first date and I’ll never forget it. He said he’s been with two married women and while he indicated that he felt sorry for them, the tone of the conversation and the candor of his storytelling proved otherwise. I wasn’t surprised in the least bit. It doesn’t seem to matter if you have a ring on your finger or not these days. Everyone is fair game.
I suppose for some people, fucking a person already married is their way of fulfilling a need while avoiding a relationship. What people forget is that unless there is an acceptable agreement between all parties involved, the complete lack of consideration for the other spouse in the triangle can be debilitating and humiliating. Trust me.
Remember Hester Prynne? These days, we may not be forced to wear a letter on our chest for all to see, but now society will judge you in secret, keep score and stab you in the back when it’s convenient. Wait, who are we kidding…? Societies have been doing this all along, it’s just much easier now (read: outing people on social media). Think about what concealed letter you are wearing, what it’s worth to you and who is affected by it. Your “letter” stands for something. Figure out what it is, why you have it and what you are hiding.
Let’s not be partial here. Truth be told, cheating in our idyllic town is not exclusive to one gender or the other. I know a handful of married women in this community who are on dating sites or freely sleeping with men they are not betrothed to. Modern women have multitudes more options than Hester Prynne and are quite often not condemned for their actions, but rather relish in the fact that their activities are overlooked and are discounted as commonplace. Why? Probably because the people they associate with are doing it themselves, think it’s acceptable or just assume you have a mutually open-marriage. We also tend to “keep our mouth shut” as a society, not realizing how we are damaging our future and our offsprings’.
We all know what Arnold Schwarzenegger did, but damn! I can’t wait to see Terminator Genisys.
A staggering number of men and women in Fort Collins even rent “office” space separate from their homes, referencing the additional work place needed for their occupations. Nobody questions them about this. It only becomes an issue when it breaks up a young family, confuses children and creates an upheaval of lifestyles. But the general population does not seem to care. After all, we all know what celebrities such as Arnold Schwarzenegger did, but we’ll still go see his movies..
Think of it this way: If you want to date and sleep with other people, then maybe you need to get a fucking divorce. Easier said than done, right? You’re telling me. It’s often said that divorce is worse than death. Just think about the example you are showcasing for your children if you and your spouse have “an agreement” before mourning the loss of your granite countertops. If your indiscretion leads to the end of a marriage…well, congratulations! You just contributed to the deconstruction of the American family. Let’s hope all your hard work and deceptive efforts pushed you to a higher tax bracket.
There is no just-world. That has always been a fallacy and people will continue their self-serving ways as long as it means keeping a five bedroom house and health insurance. Prove me wrong. How about this: If you don’t want people to know what you are doing, then you probably shouldn’t be doing it.